Recovering Again: Navigating Eating Disorders After a Late Neurodivergent Diagnosis (Part 2) With Stacie Fanelli, LCSW @edadhd_therapist

What happens when your recovery journey needs a reboot—not because you relapsed, but because you learned something life-changing about your brain?

In this second part of my deep conversation with Stacie Fanelli, LCSW, we explore what eating disorder recovery looks like after a late diagnosis of autism and/or ADHD (AuDHD). We talk about the grief, relief, and radical reframing that can come when you realize your past recovery strategies weren’t failures—they just weren’t made for your neurotype.

Together, we unpack the nuances of recovery that often get overlooked:
🧠 How sensory needs, executive functioning, and rejection sensitivity complicate “standard” approaches
🔥 Why anger and blame can be necessary—and even healing—steps in post-diagnosis recovery
🔄 What it really means to recover again, when old recovery tools no longer fit
🥄 And how to create sustainable support plans that work with your brain, not against it

Whether you’re a therapist, neurodivergent human, or somewhere in between, this episode will leave you feeling seen, affirmed, and empowered to define recovery on your own terms.

🎧 Listen to Part 1 first if you haven’t already—and follow Stacie on IG at @edadhd_therapist or visit autonomousmindstherapy.com to learn more.

ABOUT STACIE FANELLI, LCSW

Stacie Fanelli (she/her) is an AuDHD outpatient therapist specializing in the intersection of eating disorders, ADHD, and autism with experience at all levels of care. She works primarily with high-masking, late-identified folks using interpersonal and existential approaches to exploring the neurodivergent identity and its impact on the relationship with food and body. Stacie also provides consultation, training, and education via social media about neurodiversity-affirming ED care.

 

Her office is in Rancho Cucamonga, California. She sees clients virtually in California and Pennsylvania.

 

CONTACT & FOLLOW STACIE

www.autonomousmindstherapy.com

@edadhd_therapist on Instagram

staciefanelli.msw@gmail.com

 

CHECK OUT OTHER EPISODES WITH STACIE AND ON NEURODIVERSITY & EDS!

• Complexities of Treating ARFID: How a Neurodivergent-Affirming, Sensory-Attuned Approach Works on Apple and Spotify.
• ARFID & Neurodiversity on Apple and Spotify.
• Minding the Gap: The Intersection Between AuDHD & Eating Disorders With Stacie Fanelli, LCSW on Apple and Spotify.

👇 Want to learn how to support clients and loved ones (and even yourself!) with ARFID using a neurodivergent-affirming, trauma-informed lens?
Check out my ARFID and Selective Eating Course:
https://www.drmariannemiller.com/arfid

 

INTERESTED IN HANGING OUT MORE IN DR. MARIANNE-LAND?

• Follow me on Instagram @drmariannemiller
• Check out my virtual, self-paced ARFID and Selective Eating course
• Learn about my self-paced, virtual, anti-diet subscription-based curriculum. It is called Dr. Marianne-Land's Binge Eating Recovery Membership.
• Live in California, Texas, or Washington D.C. and interested in eating disorder therapy with me? Sign up for a free, 15-minute phone consultation HERE or via my website, and I'll get you to where you need to be!
• Check out my blog.
• Want more information? Email me at hello@mariannemiller.com